| You may be codependant if... |
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My good feelings about who I am stem from being
loved by you |
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My good feelings about who I am stem from receiving approval
from you |
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Your struggle affects my serenity. My mental attention focuses
on solving your problems or reliving your pain |
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My mental attention is focused on pleasing you |
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My mental attention is focused on protecting you |
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My self-esteem is bolstered by solving your problems |
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My self-esteem is bolstered by reliving your pain |
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My own hobbies and interests are put aside. My time is spent
sharing your interests and hobbies. |
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Your clothing and personal appearance are dictated by my desires
as I
feel you are a reflection of me |
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Your behavior is dictated by my desires as I feel you are
a reflection of
me |
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I am not aware of how I feel. I am aware of how you feel |
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I am not aware of what I want—I ask what you want. |
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The dreams I have for my future are linked to you |
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My fear of rejection determines what I say or do |
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My fear of your anger determines what I say or do |
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I use giving as a way of feeling safe in our relationship |
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My social circle diminishes as I involve myself with you |
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I put my values aside in order to connect with you |
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I value your opinion and way of doing things more than my
own |
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The quality of my life is in direct relation to the quality
of yours |
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