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Are You Codependant?

 
You may be codependant if...
My good feelings about who I am stem from being loved by you
My good feelings about who I am stem from receiving approval from you
Your struggle affects my serenity. My mental attention focuses on solving your problems or reliving your pain
My mental attention is focused on pleasing you
My mental attention is focused on protecting you
My self-esteem is bolstered by solving your problems
My self-esteem is bolstered by reliving your pain
My own hobbies and interests are put aside. My time is spent sharing your interests and hobbies.
Your clothing and personal appearance are dictated by my desires as I
feel you are a reflection of me
Your behavior is dictated by my desires as I feel you are a reflection of
me
I am not aware of how I feel. I am aware of how you feel
I am not aware of what I want—I ask what you want.
The dreams I have for my future are linked to you
My fear of rejection determines what I say or do
My fear of your anger determines what I say or do
I use giving as a way of feeling safe in our relationship
My social circle diminishes as I involve myself with you
I put my values aside in order to connect with you
I value your opinion and way of doing things more than my own
The quality of my life is in direct relation to the quality of yours
   
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